Baby I got it
What you need
Do you know I got it?
All I'm askin'
Is for a little respect when you come home
The song has been performed, parodied, quoted at the drop of a hat. It was made popular by R and B singer Aretha Franklin. In spite of the "dance floor" tune, Respect is a word that we're all familiar with. Perhaps we know the word but I wonder if we "really" know it. It should be the cornerstone of all relationships even on the most casual level. And yet it seems to be missing in the way we live and interact with each other privately and socially. There remains the question "do I earn it to get it?" Or the reverse.
All I'm Askin' Is For...
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Sexual assault, rape, domestic violence, and child abuse happens when someone crosses the line of decency, at the cost of another human being. They don't care that to violate another person means they cause deep harm to that person's mental and physical well-being.
“I thought about this problem and am sure I have the solution: make rape legal if done on private property,” he continued. “I propose that we make the violent taking of a woman not punishable by law when done off public grounds.Find Out What It Means To Me
Sadly Mr. Vörek thinks his contemplating this issue has lead him down the path to a great solution for men, and women. He devalues a woman's rights to drink socially, and dress the way she wants to. His solution is to allow men to rape promiscuous women, thus building better values into all women. I would laugh this off as ridiculous, except there are those who are drinking his crazy kool-aid.
He sees women as property, and not as human with the same inalienable rights.
|USAF Col. Don Christensen (R) prosecutes case of sexual assault of Kimberly Hanks (L)|
In the same article, the Military doubles down on its' disrespect for rape victims when another survivor-victim came
|USAF chose to respect perpetrator over Anonymous Survivor Kris|
In the year since the assault, Kris had fallen into a kind of limbo. While most of her fellow aviators had been moved up to new positions, she was overlooked. She eventually requested a lateral move to another department to get away from her difficult situation. “I was put on a shelf,” she said, adding that she has been socially isolated. “Since this happened, no one in the squadron invites me to do anything. And I don’t think I ever will be invited.”
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Maybe the scariest part is when you're a survivor-victim of rape and the ones who are called to protect and serve you would rather do exactly the opposite. An 18-year-old girl living in our nation's capital was raped at the age of 11 in 2008. When she reported her attacks, Danielle Hicks-Best was arrested for filing a false report. The Metro police did it on the basis they believed that Danielle was lying and had consented to sex with several adult men. Inspite of the fact she was able to lead the police back to the scene of where the rape had taken place and there was evidence from the rape kit that Danielle had been assaulted. The detective, William Weeks of the Youth Investigations Division believed the rapist story that Danielle said she was sixteen and would have sex with any man in the house. He was never arrested or charged with as much as statutory rape. But after several hours of interrogating, the victim in the same clothes she had been assaulted in, Weeks charged her for filing a false report because her story kept changing.
Although a rape kit once again showed that she had been sexually assaulted, Weeks went to the Office of the Attorney General and requested a custody order so he could charge her with making a false police report, which was granted. Weeks then marked the child sexual abuse case as “closed.” DC police admit botching 11-year-old girl’s rape case Raw Story Tom Boggioni March 3, 2015Figure this one out for yourself: A young girl gets raped and she's going to have a clear head about the facts? I would like to know first hand what made the detective in this case hand her over to be arrested? Unless there is new evidence to uncover, how this young girl who was 11 years at the time, could legally give consent, this is a total fail on the part of the police department and the people who handled her case. Where was the respect for this young girls rights? Hopefully as the Metro Police reopen this case, they can compensate Danielle in some way. Give her another shot at justice.
Respect is a mindset that we all need for each other. If the institutions feel they don't have respect from the public on an issue such as rape, you might want to ask why? As a young writer recently said in her article in the NY times:
Believing survivors is not just the right thing to do. It’s the best thing to do if we want to stop sexual violence. Wagatwe Wanjuki, New York Times December 12, 2014
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